Okay so yes, I'm aware of the fact that it's that time of year again; that time of year where everyone complains about Valentines. Whether you're single or not, there is complaining. If you don't wanna hear the bitch about it, then you probably shouldn't read it.
My main bitch, are the expectations of Valentines.
I knew a guy who loves Valentines. he said, and I quote, "It's the day where desperate women just open their legs." Okay. Have fun with chlamydia, dude. I kind of feel bad for guys like that.
Now, girlfriends expect to be swept off their feet. I mean swept as in they want creative, they want romantic, and they want spontaneous. The whole dealio.
I don't care if she says, "It doesn't matter, it's a stupid holiday." Or anything along the lines of that she doesn't expect anything or want anything. SHE IS FUCKING LYING. She might even be lying to herself.
She wants something special. Why wouldn't she? Every woman thinks about being treated as a queen. She may say that she doesn't care about Valentines, but it might just be something she tells herself because everyone has been let down on Valentines. She doesn't want to care about it, but there's that little thought in the back of her head, that just wishes that she would get flowers or that someone would think she's just so god damn special that they take her to a fancy dinner.
Now do I have any expectations for Valentines?
Nope.
Fuck, are you kidding me?! Did you believe that answer?
Cuz I lied. Of course I have expectations for Valentines, I'm one of those girls I was just talking about. I'm just like the rest of them. I want to be special to someone, on that day that is celebrating love. I expect this year, just like every other fucking year, to be a let down. That's my honest to god expectation of this years Valentines. That being said, I'm okay with having a shitty Valentines. I've had a bad one every single year so far, and I'll certainly live through another shitty one.
But is it fair for a girlfriend to expect so much of a boyfriend? To be just completely blown away with romantic gestures? Probably not. Let's face it, we're dealing with men. I can't say men are completely unromantic, but I don't think it's their strongest suit.
I mean, why can't women be the ones to be all romantic for the guy? She could buy him a fucking giant bag of Cheetos. Or an expensive bottle of whiskey. Or whatever it is that he's into, I dunno.
Or...and this is a crazy thought...what if I bought a giant bag of Cheetos for my boyfriend every day anyways? What if men didn't have to worry about giant expectations of Valentines because it didn't exist? What if they just treated their girlfriend like a queen everyday because that's how he sees her?
Anyways. Happy Valentines, guys. <3
I love your posts. They're so down to earth and real and legit and every girl can relate to them. I agree with all you said about Valentine's Day, too. I've always thought it was a stupid holiday. Finally this year I'll actually have someone, for the FIRST time. But by 21 years old I still know it's a cheesy holiday. I always had fun just getting something from my parents on that day. Chocolate. A stuffed animal. Whatever. Haha. But you're so right: Even though I think it's cheesy and you shouldn't go crazy with it, do I expect SOMETHING from my man? Uh ... YEAH. Or I'd definitely be offended, sure.
ReplyDeleteLet's just put it this way:
If your boy does something a little extra special on vday alright, yay. that's awesome. if your bf treats you with respect for one of the first times and in general, makes you feel special and you rarely feel special to him any other day? Iiiii think that's a sign to dump him because you should feel special so much more often than a few holidays a year.
Anywho: The BIGGEST fact of the matter here is, no guy can say he "forgot". AND no single person can complain too much .... y'all ... there's walmart .... go to the OBVIOUS valentines section guys, (HOW CAN YOU FORGET WHEN WALMART IS DECKED OUT, THE GROCERY STORE IS DECKED OUT, EVERYWHEREE IS DECKED OUT IN VDAY DECORATIONS) and buy either your gf a little sumfin sumfin or single people .... buy the yummy reeses heart candy or something you like instead some nasty assorted chocolate flavours that you don't even like half of anyways that some boy got for you last year.
PREACH IT HAYLEY.
ReplyDeleteIt really is difficult to decide which are more beautiful, the pictures you take or the words you write. Either way, you deserve exactly what you're waiting for. Keep writing and clicking, Becki.
ReplyDelete^ what he said. youu're so amazing, girlfriend. you're gonna get the best of the best, I swear it.
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